年長了，善待自己 .....
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; mso-pagination: widow-orphan; mso-margin-top-alt: auto; mso-margin-bottom-alt: auto"><FONT size=3><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">有位大學同學的婆婆是美國人，現住在美國的養老院，朋友每星期</SPAN><SPAN style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">和她</SPAN><SPAN style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">先生到養老院看婆婆，她婆婆已獨居</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">30</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">多年，</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">88</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">歲時還可以獨自開車旅行。</SPAN><SPAN style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">最令我驚訝的是，當我到美國同他們到養老院探視婆婆時，她說婆婆前一星期才換裝</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">6</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">顆假牙，共花了</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">20</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">多萬台幣。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">如果印象沒錯，在台灣的老人或家屬</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">大概不會想到要幫一位</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">96</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">歲的老太太換更合嘴的假牙，如果假牙不合用，往往老人本身也會覺得算了，家屬也泰半同意？都</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">96</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">歲了，何必費事、花這個錢？</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">可是朋友的</SPAN><SPAN style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">老公</SPAN><SPAN style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">是美國人，想法不一樣，他希望母親有較好的牙齒</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">, </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">享受食物的美味，沒有想過這口假牙用多久，只想著就是要給老媽媽好的生活品質。年長了</SPAN><SPAN style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">善待自己</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">這件事讓我想起，有一次採訪一位知名的專欄作家，那年她</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">70</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">歲決定植牙，她不太有錢仍決定花這</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">100</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">萬元，朋友知道後都問，都</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">70</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">歲了為何仍大費周章的植牙？</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">面對朋友的質疑，她的想法很簡單，「只要活著，就要有好的生活品質。」她說，如果知道植牙後只有</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">2</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">年可活，她照樣會植牙，因為可以過</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">2</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">年好品質的生活也值得！是的，人總是勞累一輩子，希望到老時可以享受清閒的生活，但真正到老時，卻又認為已經老了，也就什麼都算了；仍選擇侷促、將就將就地活著，一輩子都沒對自己好過。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">人生有限，想做什麼就去做，就是一種生命品質的體現。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">我們的長者一向被「老」字拘束得緊，覺得老了就應妥協，不應奢求，不應多所要求。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">四、五十年歲的你們</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman">,</FONT></SPAN><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 標楷體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體">是最有資格對自己更好的一群，何況常常所做的只是合理而沒有「特別好」；對自己好，這件事是不用跟別人妥協的。</SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="mso-font-kerning: 0pt"><FONT face="Times New Roman"> </FONT></SPAN><SPAN lang=EN-US style="FONT-FAMILY: 新細明體; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體"> <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></FONT></P>